Often when we decide to leave a situation that is not serving us no longer serving us- a job , a relationship etc.- it is because we feel fed up, taken advantage of, angry or resentful.
And yes, we should absolutely leave places & spaces that are not allowing us to group or are toxic to our souls. This is how we change & evolve.
But here’s the thing- when we are filled with anger or hatred when we leave, we take those negative emotions with us. And often, after a brief "honeymoon" phase we re-create the same type of situation with a new job or a new person.
New space. Same old you.
This is because we are creating our lives with our energy and our emotions. And we can only create equal to how we feel. So if we feel anger and resentment, we will eventually create a situation where we can once again feel anger and resentment.
You will subconsciously seek out situations to match the energy you carry with you.
In order to truly create something new and experience lasting positive change in our lives, we much shift our energy and learn to break our addictions to negative emotions.
We must Love it before we Leave it.
This is not to say that you have to fully “love” your toxic boss or your abusive partner. It's just you need to be able to make peace with the situation before you move on.
Send love to yourself. Send understanding to the person who is doing you wrong. Meet them in their humanity. Even if you can only see a tiny glimmer of the innate ones we all share. Be the light in the darkness that the cannot be. Send gratitude for the lessons you learned along the way.
And then GO! Run towards wall the wonder and joy and possibility you so fully derseve, knowing that the winds of your new emotions will be at your back.
Yes, this is a challenging practice, however, when you master the skill of loving it before you leave it; when you create equal to the emotions of the life you want to live, you will be able to move on and create a life that you truly love.
You can create something new. You have the power to make a better life for yourself.
And it starts now- when you learn to Love it before you Leave it.
