One of the greatest life lessons we can learn is that JOY - that seemingly elusive and often fleeting positive feeling that we all crave — is completely within our control. Yes, even when times feel dark. Yes even now.

Because Joy is not dependent on external circumstances. Joy is an inside job.

It can be challenging to understand how we can create Joy- especially when we are faced with heartbreak and devastating loss. But even in the darkest times, joy can creep in.

Two people can experience the same sunset. One can be trapped in pain and anxiety. The other can be awestruck and overcome by joy. The event is neutral- we create the Joy.

Joy is a practice.

Joy is a choice.

And the simplest path toward realizing this is to Just Observe Yourself.

Pause. And take the time to become aware of your thoughts and feelings.

Some helpful Questions for self-reflection as you Just Observe Yourself are:

Where is my focus?

What thoughts and emotions are overwhelming me? Are they even true?

Am I reacting from an old subconscious pattern or am I actively choosing my response?

Is this an obstacle or an opportunity? Do I “have to” or do I “get to”?

Does this relationship, job, situation serve the life I really want to live or is it just comfortable and familiar?

Could I choose Peace instead of being “right”?

How am I bringing the meaning to this situation?

The answers to these questions and many others- the self reflection they bring, will put you on the path towards your greatest Joy.

Joy that is not dependent on a sunset or a relationship.

Joy that can put a small smile on your face in the midst of difficult times.

That “back pocket” joy - the kind that is always available - that you can pull out at any moment you need it.

Yes even now.

It’s an inside job. Real and lasting Joy comes from Just Observing Yourself.